How to Tame a Free Spirit

A friend sent me this link and I find it so true!!!  I should rename it "How to tame me"...^_^

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Source: How to Tame a Free Spirit

Do you yearn for the devotion of someone who's fiercely independent or loves everything out of the ordinary? The key to sharing a wild soul is to make him or her feel like they can be freer with you than with anybody else. Here are ways to have that free spirit eating out of your hand, willingly and happily.

Understand what attracts you to this person.
Free spirits like to flow through life following their whims; things like punctuality, precautions, and other minor details will be of no concern to an independent mind. This often makes them extremely creative and fascinating individuals, which is what probably attracts you to them in the first place. By imposing dams, as little as they may be, you could very well suffocate the qualities that make this person desirable to you. (That is, if you don't manage to scare them off first.) Keep this in mind as you implement the following steps.

Leave the door open -- literally and figuratively.
You don't have to come right out and say it, but do make it clear that your free spirit is free to come and go as (s)he pleases. This will build your free spirit's trust.

Don’t establish boundaries by laying down rules.
Restrictions are like chains, and will send this wild horse running for the horizon. Instead of saying, "Don't ever cheat on me," ask, "Would you really risk losing an awesome person like me just to get a little extra on the side?" Make it clear that if they cross any lines, they’re the one who will be missing out.

Get your priorities straight.
What do you want most out of the relationship? Commitment? Respect? Honesty? Affection? Companionship? Passion? Security? Stability? Can you narrow it down to two or three? A free spirit will not go out of his or her way to meet your every need. (It may happen later, but only once there is complete trust.) Set realistic goals by asking for the things you want most out of a relationship -- and expecting nothing else.

Many things can scare a free spirit out of a relationship.
 Some can be small little quirks. Many of them may not be your fault. Just stick in there. If something is happening in your free spirits life that has to do with you, and if making their life a little more difficult, don't give up. They may back off for a while, even threaten breaking up. Don't try to convince them not to, but don't go along with it either. If they try to break up, just tell them you don't want to. Say how good you guys are together. If they end up breaking up with you, refrain from moving on right away. This might hurt, but they could change their mind. Quickly.

Get to know the person inside-out.
Study their tendencies, their quirks, their deepest desires, and their worst fears. Always be accepting and open-minded. Knowledge is power; the better you know this person, the less you'll feel the need to control them. With time, moreover, this will make you seem like the only person who really gets it (and, by extension, the only person they can be their uninhibited self around). To a free spirit, this is the jackpot.

Choose your battles wisely.
If a problem doesn't directly threaten the priorities you’ve established, then let it go and just enjoy the ride. For example, if they're 15 minutes late and you end up missing a movie, roll with the punches and see the next one; however, if they're 45 minutes late to pick you up in the middle of the night in a bad neighborhood, there's a serious discussion to be had.

Give them the benefit of the doubt.
A person who values his or her independence will truly test your ability to trust. You need to determine early on whether or not you can trust this person; if you feel can, then trust them completely or not at all. Sure, you might get burned, but you also might capture the heart of a person that no one else could touch.

Get in touch with your own free spirit.
Don't sit at home wondering what they’re doing or when they're going to call. Get in your car and take a road trip. Visit an old friend. Watch a new movie. Taste a different kind of food. Your free spirit will respect you for it and feel a sense of kinship with you when you both get home and recount your adventures.

Love their free-spirit.
The number one thing that all free spirits demand from their relationships is acceptance; without that, a free-spirited person suffers an assault on his/her freedom. Only when you accept them for exactly who they are can they trust you -- and only in that trust can a relationship develop. Just remember that independence is something to be appreciated, not just tolerated; with love and understanding, you'll be giving a free spirit exactly the kind of nourishment that it needs.

Tips

• Free spirits don't like being judged, which will make them back off or even vanish. Be careful with your words and actions. But once you meet him/her on the same level (learn to accept them) they can become the most extraordinary individual you ever met.
• Don't try to change him or her. This is a classic mistake in any kind of relationship, but it’s especially important when you're dealing with a rugged individual.
• Give them time to themselves and their projects. Sometimes you just have to let them walk a path alone, letting them know you'll be there when they get to the end.

Warnings

• Just because you're inviting a free spirit into your life doesn't mean you need to do dangerous things like practice unsafe sex, do drugs, ride a motorcycle with no helmet, etc. Not every free spirit is trustworthy (just like not every "normal" person is trustworthy); some cannot be tamed and others are simply selfish.
• Don't assume that a free spirit is "up for anything". Respect their limits; just because they’re different from yours doesn’t mean they don’t exist.
• In many ways, you cannot truly tame a free spirit. What you can do is encourage this person to make you a part of their freedom.
• If all else fails, try to enjoy the free spirit from afar. Support their activities and communicate that you appreciate their decisions. Sometimes it is hard to be a free spirit (not everyone accepts them as they are, meaning sensitivity can often be an issue), so encouragement can be a nice change.

Nice chorus

我真的好累
你要的我都学不会
为你伤悲、为你憔悴
你让我喝却不让我醉

我真的好累
却为你付出了一切
为你狂野、 为你沉醉
做一个爱情的傀儡

SingTel Boosts CEO Pay, Sees Potential in Mobile Advertising

And so, the big guy is interested in eating the mobile advertising pie as well.

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Source: SingTel Boosts CEO Pay, Sees Potential in Mobile Advertising

Singapore Telecommunications Ltd. (ST) Chief Executive Officer Chua Sock Koong, who was paid S$4.9 million ($3.8 million) last year, said the mobile advertising industry holds "significant potential" for the company.

The phone operator, Southeast Asia's biggest, paid Chua 9 percent more in the past year as its mobile subscription base jumped 10 percent to 445 million from 403 million with investments in markets including Australia and Indonesia, it said in its annual report. Mobile operators in both developed and emerging markets could use location data provided by customers to target the right ads, she said in the report.

"We are particularly excited about the potential of mobile marketing in emerging markets, where mobile phones offer advertisers the most compelling avenue to reach hundreds of millions of current and future customers," Chua said, adding that the mobile advertising industry is in a "nascent stage."

Revenue for mobile data services "significantly lags" the growth in data usage, Chua said. SingTel plans more investments in its network ahead of the increasing global demand in data, she said.

To contact the reporter on this story: Ee Chien Chua in Singapore at echua27@bloomberg.net

To contact the editor responsible for this story: Linus Chua at lchua@bloomberg.net

This article was originally posted on Bloomberg.com on Jun 27, 2012 12:18 PM GMT+0800

Short dream over a nap

My headache and running cum blocked nose was driving me nuts so I took a short nap.  In my nap, I had a dream.  I dream that I was walking along a pathway in the park with my sis and mum.  I was walking infront, way way ahead of them.  My sis was walking in the middle and mum was last.  But as I walking, I kept turning back to check out on them.  During one of my checking out, I saw a dog....growling as he made slow advances towards my mum.  My mum was scared stiff and because mum had problems with her legs, she couldn't run.  She kept shouting to the both of us to run as fast as we can.  My sis was frightened as well. I walked back to my sis and together with sis, we walked to my mum.  The 3 of us held hands and walked very very slowly away from the angry dog.  I was in the middle holding my sis and mum tightly.  But as we walked, we realised that the dog started to make it's advances again...only this time, the dog moved faster.  And then it started to run....as if chasing us. I told them to continue walking slowly...coz if we run, the dog will give chase.  Before we knew it, the dog ran past us.  I turned around and saw more dogs.  We panicked again but chose to continue walking very slowly and those dogs ran past us as well.  Mum asked me "Why didn't you run when I told you to?"  I responded "I cannot leave you behind."

This brought me back to the Lilo & Stitch cartoon I watched many years back.  In the cartoon, I heard the word "Ohana" for the first time.  And I also learn that Ohana means family and family means no one gets left behind.  I wonder why my bro and dad wasn't in my dream...hmmmm.....now back to bed!

Back to the future

Where is my hoverboard and flying shoes???

Oh but then, it's not 2012.  It's suppose to be 2015.  3 more years to my hoverboard and flying shoes. (Check out http://isitbacktothefutureday.com/)

10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Wife

Source: 10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Wife

It’s a pity no one states the things not to say to your wife ever. But if we had to had to bribe the pundit to read out the top 10 commandments of what a husband must never mention to his wife instead of wedding vows, this is what it would look like.

1. “Maybe you should go on a diet.”

Yes, looking after your house and keeping it habitable has affected how she looks but if you can’t compliment her, don’t ever let her hear this one. Especially when you’re sitting with your perfect tyre in place.

2. “Why don’t you work as long as me?”

Yes, we get it. You’re irritated and need to spark off an argument but talking about what a great sacrifice you make by working is not going to help anyone. Especially if she’s quit her own job to look after the house and kids.

3. “Anand from Accounts is ….”

No, your wife doesn’t want to know about office gossip. When you’re home, she wants you to listen to her not your work problems. At least not every day!

4. “That one looks hot!”

If you have ever said this to your wife while checking out another woman and lived to survive the tale, you know what a landmine this sentence is loaded with.

5. “I don’t feel like talking.”

This can be excused if used sparingly. However, if you want to prevent communication problems in your relationship then you better learn to have an open channel all the time.

6. “All you do is nag.”

Desist from ever saying this. Your wife’s already short fuse will be completely blown if you such this incendiary sentence.

7. “Why do you want to go shopping again?”

Yes, she knows you hate it. But you need to entertain her too and if she likes to go shopping, then tough luck. Deal with it, don’t complain about it.

8. “You’re not really wearing that, are you?”

Unless you’re Narendra Kumar Ahmed or Sabyasachi Mukherjee, questioning her sartorial choices so bluntly is going to cause a major fight. Try and suggest your picks in a more delicate manner.

9. “Must be that time of the month.”

If you think you can use this line as a weapon for a clever retort, you’ve got another thing coming. This can be one of the most insulting, not to mention sexist, things you can ever say to your wife.

10. “You’re acting like your mother.”

The biggest no-no. No woman likes to be compared to another woman, especially her mother. Bear in mind you’re also passing a judgement on her mother with this one. Unless you want to spend an entire year apologising, refrain from ever using this line during your entire marriage.


A marriage is a union between two different people and it can be perfect only if both the people accept each other as they are.

Random toilet scribbling

Saw this random toilet scribbling on the door of a female cubicle. Whoever wrote this must have been inside for too long...nothing better to do so decided to vandalize abit. These are the words that's written on the door...and they rhyme!!

当我爱你深
你却不认真
当你爱我深
我已恨你深